Single and happy

In this couple- driven society we are bound to come across people who think that finding a pair is the ultimate goal in life. They always think that finding someone to cling to can lessen the burden in one's life. Some may imply the idea that being single is somewhat "wrong". Now, why am I discussing these statements? 

A couple of days ago, I realized that i missed someone. I've already convinced myself that he is special to me as well as I am to him - so he says. But, why am i still single? What's stopping me to be involved in relationships and commitments. I've never really had a traumatic relationship in the past. I mean I've never even  had a relationship, EVER. I'm part of the all known "No Boyfriend since birth" club and I'm turning 20 this year. I'm hesitant on saying that this is something to be proud of because a lot of acquaintances never believe me when i tell them that I've never been in a relationship. At least I can say that I did survive a lot of temptations that came along my way. The common reason i would say is that, "I'm concentrating on my studies as of the moment" or "My parents won't permit me" and the simplest thing I would say is that "I prefer to be single." But apart from all these so - called reasons I grappled the insides of my heart and soul and searched the rationale of my choice. 

1. FATE 

Apparently, I'm the kind of person who wants destiny to land at my doorstep. I know it sounds really passive. But for me, it works that way. I'm not going to try all the flavors of ice cream just to find my right taste. There has to be something special about the moment we meet and how I feel about him to know that he's the right one. Yes, It sounds lame, but this is me. I'm a hopeless romantic. We should not tire ourselves in choosing love, It comes to us eventually. As long as we are patient enough to wait for it. 

2. The real meaning of a relationship

Most relationships I've heard end up a lot quicker than we thought. There's a month long relationship, to weeks and then there's just the days. Even the infamous marriage of Britney Spears ended up 24 hours after their wedding vows. How terrible is that. All those love and happiness don't really mix up quite well when we hear these stories. These untimely breakups happen because of their poor foundation. More  relationships these days started from online social networks, texting, and even random rendezvous at night clubs. For me, the best foundation for a long lasting relationship is friendship. The best lover is also your best friend. Someone who accepts you for who you are no matter how many flaws you've got. 

3. The happily ever after cliche

 Sacrifices are essential in a classic relationship and this should be valued by both of the people involved. thus, I am in the search of the man who thinks the same. It can add a lot of good things in life but it also adds some rigidity. So right now i'm taking the time to appreciate my current flexibility.

4. Finding myself first
To find the right guy i have to be the right girl first. 

5. NO heartaches
Yes, it's true. If we don't have someone, then we won't have the risk of getting our heart broken. Although falling in love is the most beautiful feeling in the world, the aftermath would be the feeling that happens when you're left behind by a loved one. Apparently, I haven't really been heart broken before, but I've got friends who share and confide with me about their love problems. I'm thinking deep inside that i'm not yet mature and ready enough to handle this kind of pain. The kind of pain where waking up and taking your first deep breath would be really difficult. Do single people experience this? A little bit of jealousy pain, yes but not this intense. If you can enjoy life by yourself, then why complicate it by getting into a relationship?

But nevertheless i know that when I find the right guy. The REAL GUY that I'm certain that he's the one. All these conditions would never matter. As everybody would say, we loose our minds when we're in love. To sum everything up, maybe the Simplest reason why I'm still single today is that my mind is still functioning well over my heart.